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Coffee Talk: Choosing love over fear

28. May 2022

Choosing love over fear

Hello beautiful soul,

Earlier today I shared a post on Instagram about choosing love over fear. This is something that has been very much on my mind lately.

Choosing love over fear can sometimes seem so hard. It is so easy to let fear take the steering wheel and dictate how you should live your life. Perhaps you’re afraid to be in a relationship again because you were hurt in your last.

Or maybe you are scared of failing so you never get around to starting your own business. Perhaps you are so worried about what other people will think that you never do the things you long to do. Maybe you never wear the colorful clothes you love wearing so much because you worry about what people will think.

Perhaps you know in your heart that you are meant to teach and share yoga with the world but you are scared you will fail, and your family tells you it’s a crazy idea. So you never actually sign up for that yoga teacher training you dream about because you think that maybe your family is right, and you should just stick to your current job and not take a chance on your dream.

Perhaps you long to start a coaching business, but again, you are worried you will fail, what others will think and that you will never succeed. So, you stay at your 9-5 job instead of chasing your dream.

Choosing love over fear

I get it. There are also areas in my life where I have to take a deep breath and remind myself to choose love over fear. Let me give you some examples so you know this I am actively choosing love over fear everyday.

For instance, I was deeply hurt in my last relationship. I was in a toxic, unhealthy relationship, and I was treated absolutely horribly. Now, I have met this amazing man whom I really love and want to be with. I feel so safe with him, and I trust him with my whole heart and soul.

Now, this doesn’t mean that my old pain doesn’t show its face. Just this morning I almost had a meltdown due to old pain, and I could have EASILY allowed fear to take over. Instead, I decided to talk to him, explain what feelings had arisen and also let him know that it had absolutely nothing to do with him. It had everything to do with an old wound.

I consciously chose love over fear. Had I allowed fear to be in control I probably wouldn’t even be in this new relationship. But I don’t want to let my past, ruin my future. Perhaps you have heard the phrase: you are not afraid of new love, you are afraid of old pain. Yes, I am afraid of getting hurt again. We all are. However, I am not going to let that stop me. I am going to keep choosing love over fear. Every. Single. Day. I will always choose love and faith.

It doesn’t mean fear isn’t present. It absolutely is. But you can feel fearful and still do it anyway. You can feel fearful and still choose love and faith.

I’m also currently working on new projects for my business (more to come soon), which is also scary. It’s all so scary, scary, scary. However, I’m still doing the projects. I’m not allowing my fear to dictate how I should run my business. Because if I do that nothing exciting will ever happen. Magic happens outside your comfort zone, and you just have to choose love and faith. Every day. It’s as simple as that.

Ultimately, I want to live my life from a place of love and faith. This is when magic happens. This is when I feel like my most authentic, truest self. So I lean into love and allow love and faith to guide my life.

Much love & Light,

Heidi