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Coffee Talk: Imposter syndrome

31. May 2022

imposter syndrome

Let’s talk about imposter syndrome today. This is something I am very familiar with, and it has held me for so many years. Well, imposter syndrome and worrying about what everyone else would think about me if I started to pursue my dreams, but for me the two go hand in hand. Usually when you experience imposter syndrome you also worry a lot about what others think about you.

This is how imposter syndrome is defined:

Imposter syndrome can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. ‘Imposters’ suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence

Feel familiar? For years and years this is how I felt. Let me give you some examples of how imposter syndrome and worrying about what everyone else would think held me back in my life.

How imposter syndrome held me back from living my dream life

I became a certified health coach from IIN in 2018, with the intention of starting a coaching business right away. Well, fast forward four years and now I’m starting my coaching business. Why? Well, imposter syndrome and a constant concern about what my friends and family (okay, mostly my family) would think and say about me if I started a coaching business.

However, here I am today. Four years later, living in Asia (I’m based in Sri Lanka), and I have let go of imposter syndrome and the constant worry about what everyone else will think and say if I pursue my dream life. I started my own business, I moved to Asia, I co-teach on yoga teacher trainings, I have committed to writing two books, I’m starting a newsletter, I’m blogging, I’m posting on Instagram, and I’m thinking about starting a podcast as well. Talk about growth!

Sure, imposter syndrome and worry about what others think still pop up at times, but I have learned to not listen to those voices, and do the scary thing anyway. I no longer let imposter syndrome and worry about what others will think hold me back.

Dealing with imposter syndrome

For me personally, what has helped a lot is for instance not telling everyone in my life what I’m up to and what I’m working on. For me personally I only share everything with a very few select people. This list includes my coach, my partner, and about two friends. Sure, I also sometimes share business ideas and what I’m up to with others, but my point is I am VERY selective of who I share what with.

For instance, I don’t share a whole lot of my life or business with my family. I LOVE my family. Truly. They mean the world to me. However, we live very different lives, we have different values, and we are just very different people. Well, I’m different from the rest of my family. We get along just fine, and I love visiting them, but I over the years I have learned what to share with them and what not to share.

This has helped a ton. A TON. Seriously, learn who to share what with.

As for the imposter syndrome, sure it still pops up from time to time. Sometimes, I’m writing a post on Instagram or I’m working on my coaching program, and I get the feeling that I’m a copycat. That I’m just following in the footsteps of my own coach.

However, this is NOT THE TRUTH. It just is not. Don’t believe everything you think. 

What I usually do when these feelings of doubt, worry and imposter syndrome arise is that I take a deep, nourishing breath, I tap into my courage and then I do whatever it is I’m doing anyway. I feel the feelings but I do it anyway. I don’t let imposter syndrome, worry or self-doubt hold me back anymore.

So, please don’t let any of these feelings hold you back from living your dream life. You have so much light and magic to share with the world, and we need you to share your gifts with the world.

If you have any questions or you are interested in coaching you are always welcome to contact me. I would be so honored to support you on your healing journey.

Much love & light,

Heidi