Living a life aligned with your values and beliefs sound easy but in reality many of us aren’t doing it.
For years I wasn’t living a life aligned with my values and beliefs. I lived a life that didn’t fulfill me. I lived a life where I felt that I wasn’t really living up to my full potential. For instance, I was getting up at the crack of dawn to do a 2-2.5 hour yoga practice that left me depleted and tired. At the same time I was telling others to listen to their bodies, sleep in if they needed to, and not push their body past its limits.
I was doing the exact opposite of what I was preaching. Hint, why I said that living a life aligned with your values and beliefs is sometimes easier said than done.
I was pushing myself to the point of injury. I was constantly sleep deprived. I needed 4-5 HUGE cups of coffee to get through my days. I was utterly exhausted. I would NEVER, not in a million years, tell someone to do this.
The same went with my relationship with food.
I was restricting my food intake and eating too little. I constantly thought about food. If I ate something “unhealthy” I would feel an overwhelming guilt. I didn’t listen to my body. At all. I didn’t listen to my cravings. As mentioned I would drink an enormous amount of coffee to get through the day, and I also used to drink coffee to avoid eating.
Don’t get me wrong, I love coffee, and I still drink 1-2 cups every day. I love my morning coffee. However, using coffee to curb your appetite and get through the day because you’re sleep deprived is not healthy. Of course, every now and then there are days (like when I travel) that I will be a bit sleep deprived, and I might drink an extra cup of coffee. I’m talking about your day to day life.
This is the exact opposite of what I was telling people. I was telling others to listen to their body and eat when hungry. I would tell them to enjoy that slice of pizza, have a scoop of ice cream if they craved it. Eat a sandwich if that feels good. I was preaching intuitive eating but I wasn’t practicing what I was preaching.
I would also tell my friends and family to pursue their dreams. Live their life to the fullest. However, I myself wasn’t doing this. Instead, I was stuck in an extremely unhealthy relationship that I was too scared to leave, I was too afraid to start my own business, and I was obsessing over calories and yoga. Pretty much the exact opposite of my values and beliefs.
Living a life aligned with your values will always be worth it
I get it. Living a life aligned with your values and beliefs requires courage. I have so much compassion for the woman I used to be. I stayed in that relationship because it was safe even though it was causing me raging anxiety (I will tell the full story about this relationship one day. I went to yoga every morning because it was safe. Living a fulfilled life can be scary. I allowed fear to take the steering wheel.
It took a lot of courage to leave the relationship, start my own business, and stop going to yoga every single morning. It has also taken a lot of courage to tell my landlord I’ll be moving out come April because I have decided to travel to Bali for six months.
But the way I see it, if I don’t do these things, if I don’t chase my dreams, if I don’t live a life aligned with my values and beliefs I will be deeply unfulfilled and unhappy. And guess what? I want to be happy. I want to live a fulfilled life. A life full of happiness, joy, love, fun, and richness. I want my life to be a little wild. A little crazy. I want to pursue my dreams. This to be is what living a life aligned with your values means.
As Brené Brown says, I want to live in the arena. Even if it means getting my ass kicked, even if it means failing and falling over. I’d rather live an interesting life worth living and failing than living a boring, safe life where I’m unhappy and unfulfilled.
So yeah, I’m going to stop letting fear control my life. I realized that fear will always be present, and that is okay. However, I’m no longer allowing fear to drive the car. This is my life, and I plan to live that sets my soul on fire.
Living a life aligned with your values and beliefs will always be worth it!